Sexual Energy & Semen Retention - For Men (The Interview)
Recently Chris was contacted by a magazine for an interview. The wealth of knowledge and information shared within this interview is incredibly valuable for men, and also for women. Understanding one another allows us all to love even deeper. I hope you enjoy it, Emma.
2021 Update: Check out the most powerful Semen Retention Workshop Chris has ever given. Over 3 hours of powerful practical advice - giving you the opportunity to approach this life-changing practice in the most impactful way, immediately. The event also transmits a very transformative energetic frequency, to support in your realignment.
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1 - First things first, it'd be great to know more about your background. How did you first get involved in men's health, specifically on the more holistic/mindful/spiritual side of things?
I have been assisting people for the last 10 years with the work that I do, although the larger side of my client base is currently women.
I first became interested in meditation around the age of 16 in my home country of Ireland, and I delved very deeply into experimenting with as many forms and lineages as I could get my hands on. It was in a frantic attempt to “fix” myself.
I had deep self-hatred issues as a teenager and into my early twenties, which was always masked by an over exaggerated smile, and an alcohol and drug abuse problem. I was profoundly insecure about myself in general. Ashamed would be a more accurate term. My thoughts placed me under constant anxiety, which resulted in me being sick very regularly. I had zero sense of self, and felt totally emasculated as a male.
At 20, I was led to study Traditional Chinese Medicine(TCM) in college for 4 years, where I flourished for the first time in an educational setting. I spent much time with a very potent QiGong Master whom I learned much from, and finished as a qualified acupuncturist and practitioner of medical qigong. I went on to explore many other forms of energy work. I have always had a deep(at times obsessive) love affair with the energy world.
The more I did my spiritual work as a man, the healthier, stronger, and clearer I became in my own maleness and presence. What became very evident, very quickly, was just how internally confused and feminised modern man had become. Around this time, I was was assisting men exclusively with their issues in relating with themselves, and women.
The more I began to understand and experience how everything that exists here is energy, the more I could see how little of this life-force(sexual energy) was able to flow through most men and women, unencumbered.
In terms of masculinity, I discovered that the power, attractiveness, health and consciousness of a man, is always going to be in direct correlation with how much energy that man has acquired the ability to accumulate and circulate within his life.
My work with men naturally moved heavily in this direction, supporting them in first seeing, and secondly in letting go of all the learned-lies and conditioning, so that the man can come back to his natural place of beautiful, healthy maleness.
2 - What are the fundamental beliefs about semen retention, and how semen retention intersects with lifeforce and energy? If you could walk me through the basics there, that would be great.
I must preface this answer a bit first…
As I mentioned earlier, everything that exists is energy. That includes us, and what we are made of, physically. All energy is sex energy. Sex energy is what allows you to put one foot in front of the other, its what assists you in getting out of bed in the morning, its there to digest your food, to think your ideas, to feel alive.
So, if all energy is sex, this means we are primarily walking lumps of sex. Now, imagine what would happen to a person, who is sex, if he/she were to be totally disconnected from and/or ashamed, confused, timid, depressed with their own sexual expression? Well, i'll tell you…it is essentially a form of slow suicide.
For the most part, people do not like themselves these days. They hate on themselves, and hate on others. They judge themselves, and judge others. They totally retard their internal life force energy flow.
Men have been taught to live a dispersive life. As soon as he feels horny, he looks for something to relieve the itch. In this case, you are never more than a second away from pornography on your phone or computer. Society blasts sexually teasing imagery and the objectification of women, at men, in absolutely all forms of media. Which results in men wanting to release in it, and the woman wanting to be it. Giving the madness legs.
A mans ejaculate generally has enough life force energy to repopulate a large portion of the planet. That…is a lot of energy.
So when a man releases in order to scratch his itch, to experience a few seconds of euphoria, he immediately goes into some form of deficiency, which every man feels. One of the highest markers of this being the fact he puts his limp penis away, as there is nothing it wants to do any more. Many men fall asleep after cumming, and some become totally disinterested in the partner they happen to be with, once the deed is done. The man drains himself of his essence, of his vitality.
In Chinese Medicine, semen is very sacred. It is referred to as Jing, essential fluids, which cannot be regained. The man only has a certain tank size for his life. To abuse this early on, can have serious health implications as he progresses through his life into the latter years.
For the science people, after ejaculation a mans testosterone plummets. He also looses a considerable amount of zinc and selenium. It usually takes a number of days for these nutrients and hormones to build back up and rebalance…so you can imagine the condition of the man who is jerking off once or twice every day! Nervousness and depression are very common side-effects of the “empty man”.
So, with all that being said…if a man is to not scratch the itch…
If the man was not to indulge in the few seconds of euphoria…
But instead is willing to acquire the ability to let this vital essence build up and spread up through the higher centres of his body, this brings him to a place of internal alchemy, aka transmuting his sexual energy.
3 - You read a lot about "transmuting" sexual energy. Functionally, how does that work? How does one transmute their sexual energy into themselves?
In simple terms, its to keep the tap closed, to “plug the leak”, so the water can build up and circulate internally.
When the man allows his life force energy to accumulate, before he knows it, he has oceans of energy which he is not used to having. The wonderful thing about energy/life is that it has its own innate intelligence. This means the energy begins to reach all the places it couldn’t rise to before. It is a profoundly rejuvenating and healing way of living. To clarify, not ejaculating has nothing to do with abstaining from sex. Im not requesting any man do that. Have all the sex you want. Orgasm and ejaculation are totally separate functions, but that conversation is for another day.
The retaining of this sexual energy results in cleaning and detoxifying the physical body and the mind. It will assist in better digestion, more strength, deeper and more sustained sleep, more self-love and a much stronger sense of self. The more energy he has, the higher level of consciousness he has access to = The more he gets to be in alignment with himself and his life.
Sexual energy by nature is feminine. Almost everything in life is feminine. Therefor, whenever a man feels so horny, to the point of not being able to sit deeply and at ease in this energy, with this energy, he is expressing his overwhelm via the feminine energy, and his inability to capacitate to it. Most men are TERRIFIED of women. They are totally uncomfortable with feminine energy. But the man assumes this is an external thing, when in fact the opposite is true…Its an internal thing!
One of mans biggest fears is the fear of being overwhelmed by feminine energy.
As an example, which every man will be able to relate to:
He is having sex with a woman, and is going though the general motions. Then all of a sudden, the woman begins to moan louder, and tells the man to “keep going”, “right there, “just like that, I’m going to orgasm soon baby…right there, please don’t stop yet”… Her energy starts to rise up, she gets louder, she moves deeper, her hips gyrating, he feels her vagina contracting around his penis, and before he knows it, he has beat her to it.
He has been pulled into ejaculation by her orgasmic feminine energy. The mans masculine energy was not broad enough or stable enough to ride her wave. Instead he gets overly excited by her womanhood, looses himself, and releases. She never arrives…anywhere . She is left half spent.
I want to make a point of saying to the men, that your intention should be to never release your essence. If you do end up ejaculating, its not a problem. Enjoy it all. Don’t beat yourself up. But right away return back to the place of never seeking to ejaculate. If you do this, you will learn what is needed from you internally. You will learn how to separate ejaculation from orgasm, and be able to enjoy the most delicious full body multiple orgasms, far more powerful than a few seconds of cumming. And much more nourishing. The main key, is deep relaxation and presence.
A mans ability to have himself, and to transmute his sexual energy, is to attain the ability to stay totally grounded when the tsunami of feminine energy begins to rise up in the room, both inside of himself, and inside of the woman he is engaging with.
Transmuting, is to use the extra energy accumulated for other life pursuits, such as spiritual growth and internal evolution.
4 - Do you consider semen retention to be spiritual, scientific, or a mixture of both? From my research I've read about people talking about the nutrients and compounds in semen that make it worth retaining, but I've also seen people tie semen retention back into more abstract, philosophical concepts like a "lifeforce," or even some occult-leaning ideas. Where do you come down on that divide?
Everything is everything. Its all the one thing, just spoken about in different forms. I don’t see it as being scientific or spiritual. We are by definition spiritual regardless of wether we talk about it or not. So no, I don’t see it as anything other than being an intelligent male.
An intelligent male will see no reason to ejaculate, other than to make a child. Intelligence sees no point in sacrificing oneself for a meaningless cock-fart.
Many men do it to release stress. This actually causes far more stress in the long run, as the man loses the exact energy which he needs in order to deal with the stresses. To stay firm and upright in life.
5 - What are some of the more ancient belief systems that semen retention ties into? I've read people tying it into stuff like kama sutra, and other Hindu traditions. Do you consider any of that stuff in your own work?
For the most part, I have no care for lineages. All I am really interested in, is what is real, what is true, and what grants someone a more purposeful, healthy and powerful life. A more aligned relationship with self. A more blissful existence.
6 - How does the semen retention community differ from nofap?
I am unaware of both of these communities for the most part. But based on what I do, I have had much of my work shared amongst these communities.
The nofap community is pretty dangerous for the most part. I have witnessed many issues in the men who have arrived to me for mentoring, after being involved with the nofap practice.
Mainly because it gives the man a very unhealthy and avoidant way of relating to his sexual energy and his penis. There is a militant way of relating to ejaculating that is seriously unhealthy, and not in alignment with how the energy-body is designed to function.
The men in these groups can end up fearfully avoiding their penis incase it “goes off” on day 32 of their no ejaculation “streak”.
I have seen men who have a wet-dream during their “streak”, and punish themselves. It can create deeply engrained complexes around ejaculating, and his genitals, which is very worrying as the mans genital area is energetically his positive pole. Meaning its the place in his body where his energy in life is generated. Its where his self esteem, sense of self, decisiveness, and love sits.(for a woman its her breasts, heart and throat)
Relating to his genitals in anyway other than deeply lovingness and reverence, is a serious issue.
Don’t get me wrong, Im sure there are men who relate in a healthy and supportive way with their retaining, but its VERY rare that I come across this, and I have worked with thousands of men.
7 - Outside of some of the more sexual/attractiveness benefits, what are some of the other ways that SR can benefit your life?
The biggest benefit is that you get to meet more of yourself as a man than ever before. The increase in energy brings all a mans insecurities and fears to the surface, forcing him to feel and process through them. Ultimately leading to more understanding of self, which is the goal in life in general. This is why when a man starts retaining, after a few days of holding, he starts to feel a bit crazy and jacked up, like he must go run a few miles incase he explodes with anxiety haha. This is all a beautiful thing. This is where high level guidance from a man who understands whats going on really becomes invaluable in the progression of the man.
Holding onto ones power, calls for a high level of discipline and maturity that is very rarely seen in the modern male. It takes a lot of will power initially, to walk away from the moment of ejaculation, when you are inside of your beautiful girlfriend or lover, in the throws of passion. Jedi-like willpower is needed at first. But once the man overcomes this initial stage, he will have so much more of himself.
A man can only truly be in possession of himself when he is no longer being dragged around by his horniness. In general, if a man is horny, he will sleep with any woman whom presents herself. Even if she is a terribly unhealthy choice for the man. Even if the man is in no way attracted to her.
This is how you know you are dealing with a child. An under-developed male. A male who cannot be fully trusted, because he is willing to shit on his own integrity, to satisfy his itch. That is a dangerous man. That is the man who abuses. These are also the men who are entirely controlled by society.
Its pretty crazy, how the education and communication for young men coming into adulthood is so twisted, that many of them lose their dignity and in many instances their lives, because of how easily he can be manipulated with his own horniness. Its very sad, and needs to be more widely addressed in cultures and societies.
When a man isn’t allowed to feel and express his emotions, sexual perversion and abuse is the next port of call, which in todays society is more celebrated and accepted than the first.
A man can never really be a free man until he can arrive to an internal space of reclaiming his own sex. Until he is in charge of it.
8 - How often do your sessions touch on semen retention? How do you guide men who ask about it/are struggling with it?
It comes up with every man I mentor. It is important.
How I guide the man is always based on the individual and where he is at in his own relating with self. Its always somewhat different, depending on exactly what he needs to hear/know.
9 - On your website you talk about the failures of certain types of masculinity, and embracing a better, non-toxic sense of "maleness." Tell me more about that. What, in your definition, is ideal maleness?
Ideal maleness is a man in his own natural individual energy, void of all forms of conditioning. Free from his mother issues. Free from his need to please.
Ideal maleness is a man who has done his spiritual work. A man who is totally in alignment with his own truth, and lives according to his internal law. A man who is deeply present and not caught up in societal distraction. A man who can be totally with what is, without projecting irrational judgements. A man who can be with what is real. But to get there, he must first wipe all the fantasy out of his eyes.
Ideal maleness is a man who is here for truth, clarity and love. A man who is endlessly patient and compassionate in support for what is real. A man who is also more than willing to become ferocious in the protection of truth.
An ideal man is a man who does not tolerate the childishness and the little girl behaviours in women, for he only wants to be with a woman. He is a man who holds a woman to herself, so she can come to her own place of healing and clarification. A man who understands how to make love to a woman, because he sees the depth of importance within the dance.
I can keep going…but I won’t, as I do not want to complicate it.
To keep it simple…a real man, is a male who gives himself full permission to be that which he has come here to be, in whatever form that takes, and who makes no apology for it. A man who does not compromise what is right for himself, in order to appease another. He is a man who is completely authentic in all of his relatings with women, and men. He says what he feels and ask for what he wants, to be a happy and healthy as a man. He is not politically correct in any regard. He is here for life.
He is a creator. He is a protector. He is a ferocious lover.
We desperately need men! Especially right now!
10 - I think a lot of men consider spirituality, or esoteric beliefs, to be lame, or feminine. Like, I think of all the men in my life that turn their noses up at astrology. Obviously what you stand for is quite different from astrology, but do you think that men, as a whole, could be happier if they found some sort of spiritual center? Obviously that touches on more than just semen retention, but I'm curious to get your thoughts on that.
Yes! Thats it.
We hope you enjoyed this interview with Chris Bale of Awakened Intent.
2021 Update: Check out the most powerful Semen Retention Workshop Chris has ever given. Over 3 hours of powerful practical advice - giving you the opportunity to approach this life-changing practice in the most impactful way, immediately. The event also transmits a very transformative energetic frequency, to support in your realignment.
