Stop Making Him Cum
Woman seeks to make the man ejaculate as she assumes this will satisfy him; That this is what he wants - and if she cannot ‘make’ him cum, she is not doing enough, well enough.
This is how most women have been trained to please a man - via a man who doesn’t understand himself.
If you, as a woman, want to experience being fully met and activated by a mans love/consciousness, this way of approaching s€x really needs to be eradicated.
The reality is, once he ejaculates, his innate longing to engage intimately with you can quickly dissolve, lessen, and even vanish.
Women need to know that their pursuit of a mans milk as the confirmation for their ‘job’ being completed, is weakening him - It also results in her experiencing less of him.
Less of his love.
Less of his penetrative consciousness.
Less of his power.
Less reliability.
Less trust.
Less of him - in all areas.
A man is as impactful, as the amount of charge he has accumulated. Ejaculation, is one way he diminishes and loses his vital life-force.
By no means should this be approached from a neurotic militant-style control on his part. But he absolutely needs to shift his understanding on this, so he can learn how to be with his s€x in a TOTALLY new way - to truly flourish.
Women -
Your goal should never be to make your man cum.
It should never be to weaken his beautiful life-force.
If all the man wants to do is ejaculate every time you engage intimately, you are simply a masturbatory-aid in his grander mission of release.
You are engaging with a male who is happy to partake in his own dwindling.
The longer a man can embrace and feel you in the intensity of love making(while being in his power, not releasing it) the bigger the energetic and physical union becomes. The deeper the love shared becomes.
For woman, this depth of charge, alertness and safety - will bring you to orgasmic heights you have never thought possible - where the peak is reached not through friction or movement - but through profound steadiness & sensitivity.
Also, by learning to hold more energy, he can begin to receive your lovingness deeper. Truly seeing and meeting you, where you long to be seen and met - and so much more.
Sure, the fast friction orientated, unconscious fucking, can be fun at the beginning. It can be “exciting” or even deemed as “passionate”. Essentially there is nothing wrong with it - but we all deserve more than frivolous fantasy based releases, which only keep us further away from our divine truth.
If you are about developing spiritually and opening to deeper health - this unconscious version of rubbing bodies together, is not so supportive to truly feeling self or other.
Very little is generated or exchanged, and a lot of energy & vitality is thrown away. All the space is taken up with busyness - meaning there is no room for God to enter the room. This is an issue…
Eventually the bond gets weary and tired.
Bored and frustrated.
Repetitive and expected.
S€x is to be a merging and celebration of lovingness - consciously. An experience which naturally deepens, becoming even more ecstatic overtime. Not less.
Embodied intimacy It’s one of (if not) the MOST powerful catalysts for spiritual growth and attaining higher levels of consciousness that we have physical access to.
Not just a way to friction-fuck another person after a stressful day.
I invite you to slow down, take a breath, and feel your body. Without expectation. Without goals. Without performance.
Be, in love.
& watch what unfolds…
You.
Much love,
Chris
PS. If you're a man who wants to move deeper into this work, you can sign up for Chris's weekly mens group (limited number of spots have just opened up)
